My mom says she is often asked about Sophia. I guess people wonder how she's coping with Ira being home and possibly, how she relates to Ira. Let me address the latter of those concerns, first.
She embraces Ira full-on...both metaphorically and literally. She loves to *read* to Ira and loves to dance for him. She loves to give Ira big bear hugs that often result in her knocking him to the ground. He loves it. When Ira ventures out with us, Sophia is like a little child on Christmas morning. She's giddy at just the thought of it. And at every Family Time, Sophia's prayer is "thank you that Ira's home and feeling better." She loves having him home.
As for the first concern - how Sophia is coping - allow me to relay two stories that might shed light on her processing. She and I went to the neighborhood diner several weeks ago. We ordered our usual - The Lumberjack. Pancakes, bacon, eggs, OJ and chocolate milk. A family walked in the restaurant. The daughter was an elementary aged special needs child. Sophia was immediately drawn to her. The girl was drawn to Sophia. The girl stopped at our table and they communicated as best they could. Sophia held out her hand. The girl grabbed it. They just stared into each others eyes. The mom said, "You have a beautiful daughter." I replied, "You do too."
A couple of weeks ago, the whole family went to a playground in Brooklyn Heights. It was a beautiful day and everyone was out with their kids. The playground was packed. Of all the kids Sophia could have played with, she chose the little girl with Down Syndrome. Their encounter didn't last long as we were on our way home. The little girl followed us to the gate. Sophia didn't want to leave. They were grasping for each other like sisters who hadn't seen each other in years.
Sophia is absolutely three-and-a-half years old which translates into her being a little brat on many occasions. But I would rather the stories above define how she is coping with Ira's presence in our home rather than the meltdown she had tonight because I wouldn't let her have chocolate before bed. Deep inside Sophia is a tenderness that I'm not sure she would experience if it weren't for Ira.
Overall, I think Sophia is coping just fine and she absolutely adores having her brother home. Praise God from whom all blessings flow.